I’m learning to extend grace to previous versions of me — warm hands to hug the person I was sometime in the past. We often learn more in the future than we know now, and we forget that our decisions were made by the more ignorant person were — an hour ago. Yesterday. Three months ago. Five years ago. So I forgive the version of me who was so tired in the morning, he forgot to turn on battery saver on my pc. I forgive the person I was on Monday who let an opportunity slip past because of an oversight. I forgive the person I was last week, who underestimated how much time I would need for my day-to-day. I forgive the person I was a few months ago, who let grief and fear lead his decision making. & I forgive the person I am now, who had somehow not let all these things go, but is learning to. Slowly. Daily.
On learning grace.
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Victoria
December 4, 2022 at 8:25 pm
that bit about forgiving the present self who is somehow unable to let go of the past is so relatable. I at times find myself still mad at myself over mistakes made years before but then I’m learning to let go and just forgive myself in baby steps
Victory Okoyomoh
December 5, 2022 at 3:01 am
Baby steps ?
I’m learning too. I hope we get there soon.
VVV
December 4, 2022 at 8:27 pm
I guess kindness to oneself is literally the hardest but thanks for the reminder, Victory.
Victory Okoyomoh
December 5, 2022 at 3:01 am
It really is the hardest. But it’s so necessary ?
Zimoni
December 4, 2022 at 9:21 pm
I’ve missed you and your, sometimes graceful other times far from graceful, pieces. lol. I enjoyed reading this and it made me feel better.
Victory Okoyomoh
December 5, 2022 at 3:02 am
I’m glad it made you feel better ?
Apologies for not being very consistent lately. A lot has been happening.